Mark's Blog: Tools & Tales of Change

Tale of the Day: Deserving Jan was sad over the loss of her long-time friendship with Hannah. Hannah was still pleasant to Jan, but after a period of being much less available, Jan asked Hannah what was up. Hannah explained that while she valued their friendship,...

Tale & tool of the day: Standing up for the underdog (excerpt from my new book Waltzing with Wolverines: finding connection and cooperation with troubled teens, now available in print) One of the most supportive things you can do with your power as a leader and role-model with teens,...

Tale of the day: Working with Troubled Teens Not many people realize that before I started my private coaching practice in NLP, I worked for two years as a counselor and trip leader for at-risk and troubled youth at a wilderness therapy program in Colorado. During those...

Tale of the Day: Dissolving the everyday sense of the ego “I’ve been at this hypnosis conference for 3 days now, going in and out of trances, and that simple thing you said just put me into the deepest trance yet.” ~ Participant at Mark’s workshop at the...

Tale of the Day: Sometimes all that’s needed is the right kind of listening Last month I taught the Meta Model in the Real World NLP Practitioner Training in Winter Park, CO. For those of you unfamiliar with the Meta Model, in a nutshell the Meta Model...

Tale of the Day: Core Transformation I recently met over Skype with a young woman living in Italy. Danielle told me, “I want to become more confident with myself and be more courageous in following my goals, and I want to get free from this blocking sensation...

Tale of the Day: Eliminating Performance Anxiety “I finished the audition and only when I walked out did I realize: I had no teeth chattering, no sweating, no shaking at all! It was just so crazy. I didn’t expect it at all!” Let’s rewind back to when I first...

Tale of the Day: Fun Last week I was re-reading one of my favorite nonfiction books, “Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman.” Feynman was a young professor at Cornell, feeling somewhat “burned out” by teaching introductory physics classes. One day he was in the cafeteria when a...

Tale of the Day: One of my favorite mini-metaphors “But the fear keeps me safe!” “I can’t let go of the anger or I might get hurt.” This is the kind of thing I hear again and again from clients experiencing anxiety, anger, fear or other emotions causing...

Tale of the Day: Our problems are solutions After having spent a lot of his time focusing on his family, a client of mine from Alaska wanted to get back into focusing on his business and bringing in an income again. He said he wanted to get...